Posts by Deborah Pulis

Am I a Safe Person?

“If your Black friends aren’t talking with you about race, it’s because they don’t see you as a safe person.” A friend of mine shared this at one of our interracial book group meetings. We were trying to make sense of the dissonant experiences of the white and Black folks in the room. Our Black…

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Changes at Body Oak Cliff

Dear Friends and Supporters of Body Oak Cliff, I write to inform you of a transition. As many of you know, in April of this year, Joel and I were privileged to welcome a new baby boy into our family. Theo is an utter delight, and he brings immeasurable joy into our household! In spite…

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How to Depolarize Our Political Conversations

“I know it is conventional to say we Americans are radically divided, polarized. But this is not more true than its opposite—in essential ways we share false assumptions and flawed conclusions that are never effectively examined because they are indeed shared.” – Marilynne Robinson This past week I started reading Marilynne Robinson’s collection of essays,…

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The Disruption of the Nuclear Family

Earlier this summer, when Black Lives Matter was getting all the social media buzz, and many white people were trying to figure out what to think about everything going on, there was a phrase in the BLM belief statement that seemed to upset a lot of people. It was given by many as a reason…

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Am I a Racist?

Are you sure that’s how it happened? Maybe you’re reading into things. If they would stop playing the victim and work hard, black people would be just fine. We didn’t see what happened off camera. He was obviously up to no good. But what about black-on-black crime? I have heard a lot of well-meaning white…

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Do One Thing at a Time (Guiding Principles for Slowing, #1)

The title of this post represents the first Guiding Principle that I want to offer as a path out of Consumerism and into a life where Presence and Creativity are possible. (I am calling this second pathway, “Slowing.”)  Do one thing at a time. We start here because it is a simple maxim with life-altering…

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