REFLECTIONS & STORIES

The blog of the Body Oak Cliff community

This blog seeks to capture the latest reflections of the Body Oak Cliff team (Joel & Deborah), as well as stories of transformation in our community. Many of the posts include reflection questions to help you interact with the content. If you find something that resonates with you, consider sharing it with a friend or small group and let the questions prompt meaningful conversation.

We hope that what you read here will encourage you on your journey and empower you to love in the everyday!

Confronting Our Wounds (Part 4)

By Deborah Pulis | Aug 26, 2019

In my previous post, I suggested that the number one reason we don’t feel ready to take responsibility for our part in our relationship with our parents is that we feel wounded. We may not think of ourselves as wounded. We may feel like we’re doing just fine. But if you feel a vague sense…

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Can One Person Always Change the System? (Part 3)

By Deborah Pulis | Aug 19, 2019

The idea that “one person can change the system” sounds nice in theory, but when we think about applying it to our real-life relationships, it may start to feel elusive. What if I feel like I have no power in the relationship? What if there’s no relationship left between us? My parents hurt me badly –…

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One Person Can Change the System (Part 2)

By Deborah Pulis | Aug 12, 2019

What if it’s their fault? “What if my parents don’t cooperate?” A friend asked me this question when I told her about the coaching course I was leading this summer. The course is designed to help adults improve their relationship with their parents, and a number of people expressed similar concerns when they heard my…

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The Dynamics of the Parent/Child Relationship (Part 1)

By Deborah Pulis | Aug 7, 2019

Have you ever wondered why your relationship with your parents is so challenging? (Or if you have a great relationship with your parents, maybe you’ve seen friends and siblings struggle and wondered why.) In this post, I want to explore why the parent/child relationship can be so challenging – I would argue it is the most difficult type of…

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The Importance of Incompetence

By Deborah Pulis | May 14, 2019

Embracing Incompetence I’ve taught piano lessons a few times as a side gig, and one thing that new students always seems to have in common is that they get frustrated with their “lack of progress.” This is especially true for adult students. It can be their first lesson – they have never touched a piano…

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Life After Death (A Post-Easter Reflection)

By Deborah Pulis | Apr 25, 2019

Ideas are incredibly powerful, much more so than we tend to imagine. I know someone who constantly wrestles with the belief that she is destined to fail out of school and end up addicted on the streets, like her mom. This belief is the single most important factor pushing her toward that destiny. When she…

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Our “Invisible” Sickness

By Deborah Pulis | Apr 8, 2019

I want to briefly interrupt my “How Change Happens” series to share a reflection on a topic that has become a fire in my belly. In the big picture, the topic is how consumerism is the enemy of creativity and connection. What follows is not the grand manifesto that I hope to one day write;…

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One Simple Tool to Jumpstart Your Transformation Journey

By Deborah Pulis | Mar 18, 2019

I aspire to be the kind of person who wakes up before sunrise to get in 2-3 hours of writing before the official “work day” begins. Today, I woke up around 8:30am, lay in bed for another hour, read for a bit, ate breakfast, and finally sat down to write at 10:41am. The above paragraph…

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Try This On: Change is Possible

By Deborah Pulis | Feb 27, 2019

Have you ever tried to make a big change in your behavior or habits? How did it go? Pause for a moment and think of a specific example. What was the change you wanted to make? Were you successful? If not, what got in your way? If your attempt at change ended in failure, you…

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