REFLECTIONS & STORIES

The blog of the Body Oak Cliff community

This blog seeks to capture the latest reflections of the Body Oak Cliff team (Joel & Deborah), as well as stories of transformation in our community. Many of the posts include reflection questions to help you interact with the content. If you find something that resonates with you, consider sharing it with a friend or small group and let the questions prompt meaningful conversation.

We hope that what you read here will encourage you on your journey and empower you to love in the everyday!

One Simple Tool to Jumpstart Your Transformation Journey

By Deborah Pulis | Mar 18, 2019

I aspire to be the kind of person who wakes up before sunrise to get in 2-3 hours of writing before the official “work day” begins. Today, I woke up around 8:30am, lay in bed for another hour, read for a bit, ate breakfast, and finally sat down to write at 10:41am. The above paragraph…

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Try This On: Change is Possible

By Deborah Pulis | Feb 27, 2019

Have you ever tried to make a big change in your behavior or habits? How did it go? Pause for a moment and think of a specific example. What was the change you wanted to make? Were you successful? If not, what got in your way? If your attempt at change ended in failure, you…

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Thoughtfully Entering the Year (A Guided Reflection)

By Deborah Pulis | Jan 10, 2019

This past Saturday, I had the privilege of kicking off the new year by “retreating” to a lovely lake house in Ft. Worth with the current Faithwalking cohort. During our solitude time we reflected on the joys and challenges of 2018, as well as our hopes and goals for 2019. We then gathered together to…

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The Slow Path from Panic to Peace

By Deborah Pulis | Dec 5, 2018

Two days before Thanksgiving I had a panic attack. I didn’t know it was a panic attack at the time, but when I described the symptoms to a friend – elevated heart rate for days on end, extreme muscle tension, chest pain, the inability to calm my body even when my brain knew I wasn’t…

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Evangelism (or not) in the Workplace

By Guest Contributor | May 16, 2018

Photo by Jason Betz on Unsplash Guest post by Rachel Kramer [Rachel grew up in a family of pastors in rural Wisconsin and has worked in non-profit ministry for the past decade. Three months ago she began an experiment in community engagement by working as a Starbucks barista.] I think it is safe to say…

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The Strength of Love: A Reflection on Becoming Joel’s Second Wife

By Deborah Pulis | May 9, 2018

Over the past year and a half, I have gotten a crash course in non-dualistic thinking. What is non-dualistic thinking? It’s the ability to hold two things in your mind that seem contradictory, the ability to feel two things in your heart that feel antithetical to one another. Take the classic theological question: How could…

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Moving Toward Suffering

By Deborah Pulis | Mar 27, 2018

Over spring break, I got to go on vacation with Joel’s family. We stayed in a whimsical cottage outside of Wimberley, and for the most part had a lovely time. The second night, however, we heard a scream from the loft upstairs. Grace had been practicing a dance on the slick wood floors and had…

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Acceptance & Vulnerability

By Deborah Pulis | Mar 2, 2018

The Fear of Being Seen One of my oldest, strongest longings is the desire to be deeply known. This might surprise people who knew me as a child, because I was very reserved in most settings and rarely offered up information about myself. In fact, the thought of drawing people’s attention terrified me. I read…

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When Encouragement Doesn’t Work: A Story of Shame

By Deborah Pulis | Feb 9, 2018

 If you follow our blog, then you’ve heard about the transition we’re currently walking through at Body Oak Cliff. (If you missed it – read about Joel’s departure here.) As you can probably imagine, this change has stirred up a lot for me – grief about not working as closely with Joel, insecurity about my…

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